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Be Humble
Humble
is the opposite of proud. Pride is the attitude of a self-sufficient person. Humility is the attitude of a person who knows
they need help.



Are You Humble Enough to Be Carefree?
November 20, 1994
Introduction
Humility
isn't a popular human trait in the modern world. It's not touted in the talk shows or celebrated in valedictorian speeches
or commended in diversity seminars or listed with core values. And if you go to the massive self-help section of B. Dalton's or Barnes & Noble you won't find books on humility.
The basic reason for this
isn't hard to find: humility can only survive in the presence of God. When God goes humility goes. In fact you might say that humility follows God
like a shadow. We can expect to find humility applauded in our society as often as we find God applauded - which means
almost never.
In September (12th) the Star
Tribune carried a guest editorial that captured the atmosphere that asphyxiates humility:
There are some who naively cling to the nostalgic memory of God. The average churchgoer takes a few hours out of the week to experience the sacred .
. . But the rest of the time, he is immersed in a society that no longer acknowledges God as an omniscient & omnipotent force to be loved & worshiped. . . Today we are too sophisticated for God. We can stand on our own; we are prepared & ready to choose
& define our own existence.
In this atmosphere humility can't survive. It disappears with God. When God is neglected the runner up god takes his place, namely, man. And that by definition is the opposite of humility,
namely, pride.
So the atmosphere we breathe
is hostile to humility. And this text is utterly foreign to our times & utterly necessary. If
what's said here doesn't take root in our lives, we will not be a Christian church; & we will not be salt & light
for a perishing world.
The main point of this passage
is that we Christians should be humble people. Three times the command comes in one form
or another. 1) Verse 5a: "Younger men, be subject (i.e., be humble toward)
to your elders." 2) Verse 5b: "All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another."
3) Verse 6: "Humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God."
So the main point is plain
in these 3 verses: humility is essential in the life of a Christian. It's a defining mark
of a true Christian.
So Peter also gives reasons
or incentives - at least 4.
1) Verse 5b: "God is opposed
to the proud." Nothing could be worse than to have an infinitely powerful and holy God opposed to you. So don't be proud.
2) Verse 5b: "God gives grace
to the humble." And nothing could be better than to have an infinitely powerful and wise God treat us graciously. He does that to the humble. The reason is not that humility is a performance of virtue that earns grace but that humility is
a confession of emptiness that receives grace. Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of Heaven.
3) Verse 6: God will use his
mighty hand to exalt the humble: "Humble yourselves, therefore,
under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time."
4) Verse 7: God will use his
mighty hand to care for the humble: "Casting all your anxiety upon Him, because He cares for you."
Be a humble
person because, if you're proud, God will be against you in your pride, but if you're humble he will give you grace, exalt you in due time & care for you along the way so that you don't have to be anxious.
That's the basic message of
the text. Now how shall it take root in our minds & hearts & make a powerful difference in the way we live to God's honor? Let me try to make it sink deeper into us by asking 2 questions:
1. What is pride & humility?
2. What is the connection between humility & not being anxious?



The Connection Between Humility &
Not Being Anxious
I'll start w/the second one.
Did you notice (in the NASB) the grammatical connection between verses 6 & 7?
"Humble yourselves, therefore,
under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time, 7 casting all your anxiety upon Him, because He cares for you."
It's not merely a new sentence.
It's a subordinate clause. "Humble yourselves . . . casting your anxieties on him." I think this means that casting your anxieties on God is an expression of humility. It's like saying, "Eat politely . . . chewing with
your mouth shut." "Drive carefully . . . keeping your eyes open." "Be generous . . . inviting someone over on Thanksgiving."
"Humble yourselves . . . casting
your anxieties on God." One way to be humble is to cast your anxieties on God. Which means that one hindrance to casting your anxieties on God is pride. Which means that undue worry about your future is probably a form of pride.
Now there's more to say about
that. But to feel the full force of it we need to answer the first question & then come back to this connection between pride & anxiety.
What is Pride & Humility?
The second question was, "What
is pride & humility?"
I'll try to answer that with
ten Biblical observations about pride. Humility is the opposite.
1. Pride is self-satisfaction.
God says to Israel in Hosea
13:4-6,
I have been the Lord your God since the land of Egypt . . .
5 I cared for you in the wilderness, in the land of drought. 6 As they had their pasture, they became satisfied, and being
satisfied, their heart became proud; therefore, they forgot Me. (Cf. Jer. 49:4)
2. Pride is self-sufficiency & self-reliance.
Moses warns the people of
God in Deuteronomy 8:11-17 about what will happen when they have rest in the promised land:
Beware . . . 12 lest, when
you have eaten and are satisfied, and have built good houses and lived in them, 13 and when your herds and your flocks multiply,
and your silver and gold multiply . . . 14 then your heart becomes proud, and you forget the Lord your God who brought you
out from the land of Egypt . . . [and you] 17 say in your heart, 'My power and the strength of my hand made me this wealth.'
God's goodness is turned into
self-sufficiency.
3. Pride considers itself above instruction.
In Jeremiah 13:9-10 God says
to the people of Judah,
I will destroy the pride of Judah and the great pride of Jerusalem.
10 This wicked people, who refuse to listen to My words, who walk in the stubbornness of their hearts.
Pride stubbornly refuses to be taught the way of God & makes its own wishes the measure of truth.
4. Pride is insubordinate.
Psalm 119:21 says,
Thou dost rebuke the arrogant, the cursed who wander from Thy
commandments.
When the commandments of God
are spoken, pride turns away & will not submit. It rejects the right & authority of God to command.
5. Pride takes credit for what God alone does.
One of the most vivid illustrations
of this is the case of Nebuchadnezzar, the king of Babylon.
[Nebuchadnezzar said], "Is this not Babylon the great, which
I myself have built as a royal residence by the might of my power and for the glory of my majesty?" 31 While the word was
in the king's mouth, a voice came from heaven, saying, "King Nebuchadnezzar . . . sovereignty has been removed from you .
. . 32 until you recognize that the Most High is ruler over the realm of mankind, and bestows it on whomever He wishes (Daniel
4:30-32).
Then, after his season of
humiliation grazing in the fields like & ox, Nebuchadnezzar is restored & confesses,
Now I Nebuchadnezzar praise, exalt, and honor the King of heaven,
for all His works are true and His ways just, and He is able to humble those who walk in pride (Daniel 4:7; cf. Isaiah 10:12).
6. Pride exults in being made much of.
Jesus indicted the religious
leaders in Jerusalem:
And they love the place of honor at banquets, and the chief
seats in the synagogues, 7 and respectful greetings in the market places, and being called by men, Rabbi. (Matthew 23:6)
7. Pride aspires to the place of God.
In our family devotions we
just read the story of Herod's pride in Acts 12
And on an appointed day Herod, having put on his royal apparel,
took his seat on the rostrum and began delivering an address to them. 22 And the people kept crying out, "The voice of a god
and not of a man!" 23 And immediately an angel of the Lord struck him because he did not give God the glory, and he was eaten
by worms and died. (Acts 12;21-23; cf. Is. 14:12- 14)
8. Pride opposes the very existence of God.
Psalm 10:4
The wicked, in the haughtiness of his countenance, does not
seek [God]. All his thoughts are, "There is no God."
Pride knows that the simplest solution for its own survival would be that there be no God at all. That would be, as the Nazi's
might say, "The Final Solution" for the survival of pride.
It doesn't come as any surprise
then that . . .
9. Pride refuses to trust in God.
Proverbs 28:25 contrasts arrogance & trust:
An arrogant man stirs up strife, but he who trusts in the Lord
will prosper.
Pride can't trust God. The posture of trust is too weak. Too dependent. It calls too much attention to the strength & wisdom of another. Trusting God is the heartbeat of humility, the opposite of pride.
When pride keeps us from trusting in God to take care of us there are two possibilities: one is that we feel a false security based on our own imagined power & shrewdness to avert catastrophe. The other is that we realize that we can't guarantee
our security & so we feel anxious.
Which brings us to the tenth trait of pride & the final explanation about the connection between 1 Peter 5:6 & 7.
10. Pride is anxious about the future.
In Isaiah 51:12-13 God says to anxious Israel that their problem
is pride.
I, even I, am He who comforts you. Who are you that you are
afraid of man who dies, and of the son of man who is made like grass; 13 that you have forgotten the Lord your Maker?
Who do you think you're to
be afraid? Sounds strange doesn't it. But that's how subtle pride is. Pride is the root of our anxiety.
Now we can see clearly &
feel the force of 1 Peter 5:6-7,
Humble yourselves, therefore,
under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time . . .
How? In what way shall you
humble yourselves? Answer (v. 7): by "casting all your anxiety upon Him, because He cares for you." In other words, the humblest thing in the world is to do what 1 Peter 4:19 says,
"Entrust your soul to a faithful Creator." Casting your anxieties on God means trusting the promise that he cares for you & has the power & the wisdom to put that care to work in the most glorious way.
That trust is the opposite of pride. It's the essence of humility. It's the confidence that the mighty hand of God isn't over
you to crush you but to care for you just like the promise says. Don't be proud, but cast your anxieties on him because he will care for you.
Whenever your heart starts
to be anxious about the future preach to your heart & say, "Heart, who do you think you're to be afraid of - The future & nullify the promise of God? No, heart, I will not exalt myself w/ anxiety. I will humble myself in peace & joy as I trust this precious & great promise of God—he cares for me. ©Desiring God



What, in fact, is humility?
When I'm humble, I don't feel superior to any one, but neither do I feel inferior.
I feel neither more nor less important than others.
I realize
that my place in the evolutionary movement of the universe is simultaneously very small but yet unique & precious.
I'm like a small dot of paint on the cosmic design of the universe. Although my presence is invisible
the painting isn't the same without me.
I understand that, as a personality, I have neither power, nor duration. But as a vehicle of divine energy I'm both powerful & useful.
When I am humble, I am simple &
kind, pleasant & supporting.
I respect & serve all without desire for recognition & without feeling that I've done something important.
I am easy to communicate with because I don't play games of who is right or who
is worthier.
When others want to feel "superior" more intelligent, more correct, more important than I, I perceived them with love & understanding, knowing that I too have that aspect in myself.
On the other hand, I have no need to affirm my self-worth as I understand that, in fact, my body & personality have no worth, other than as vehicles of expression for the Divine.
I enjoy serving, thus when
I serve, I keep no accounts.
I never feel I'm being used or taken from, as I give of my own free will & also have the ability to say no when I choose.
My words are few & essential
while my dress is simple. I have no need to provoke attention.
I feel comfortable with all persons. I have nothing to hide or to protect.
I'm not focused on social differences. All have
the same value for me. I feel equally comfortable with all regardless of social status or life role.
Just as all the forms on the
movie screen are expressions of the one projection light & thus have the same value, in the same way, I feel each including myself as an expression of the one divine consciousness on the screen of matter.
When I'm humble, I have no need to judge others or to compare myself with them.
I greet all without being concerned about whether they respond or not.
I know that the results of my efforts don't
belong to me. I'm responsible only for my motives & the quality of my effort; God decides the results.
My
knowledge & talents are aspects of divine grace & I use them for the benefit of the whole.
My body, mind & power are all temporarily borrowed from the divine source & are to be used towards my "Work" on the earth.
As my personality is purified, ever more power & beauty flow thru it into the world around me.
And something strange.
As my ego diminishes, I become stronger.
Abandoning the need to control, everything happens for the best.
Liberated from the need for recognition, I now have as much as I need.
Freed from the need to have, I live in abundance.
When I put my ego aside, all flows more abundantly
& harmoniously. Yet, separateness is created both when we feel superior & inferior.
Finally, it seems that I can be humble when
I need no affirmation, that is, when I accept myself as I am with all my faults. Thus, my humility is a direct result of my self-acceptance, self-confidence & self-love & not some type of self-rejecting self-demeaning attitude.
Although humble & simple, I walk with my
spine straight because, as all the others, I too am equally a pure & lovable Child of God.
But most of all,
when I'm humble, I don't know that I am.



What Is Shin Buddhism?
By Dr. Nobuo Haneda Reprinted by permission of the The Maida Center
of Buddhism, 2609 Regent Street, Berkeley, CA 94704, (510) 843-8515
The more ripe
a cluster of rice becomes, the lower it bows down its head. -A Japanese
proverb
Shin Buddhism,
or the teachings of Shinran (1173-1262), teaches us the importance of humility, the most important universal virtue. Many people think that the ultimate goal in Buddhism as well as human life is to become good.
But according to
Shinran, it's to become humble. Being good isn't good enough; we must become humble persons. We must know our evilness, the existence of our ineradicable egoism. We must know our ignorance, the limitations of our intellects. We must become humble persons who can say, "I'm evil & ignorant."
In order to explain
that Shin Buddhism teaches us the importance of humility, let me first discuss the two stages of life that Shinran experienced.
Two Stages in
Shinran's Life The most important event in Shinran's life was his meeting with Honen (1133-1212), the founder of the Jodo
School, when Shinran was twenty-nine.
This
event divided his life into two stages: the period before the meeting was the first stage & the period after it was the
second stage.
When Shinran met
Honen, Shinran realized that he had had a shallow view of Buddhahood. His thoughts on the subject went thru a total transformation. Before Shinran met Honen, Shinran thought that a Buddha was a "good" & "wise" person - a holy person who was possessed of wonderful virtues.
In order to become
such a Buddha, Shinran attempted to purify himself by eliminating evil passions. But he couldn't attain Buddhalhood. Not only was he unable to become a Buddha, he was feeling more & more depressed & miserable.
His goal of Buddhahood
seemed far away. He couldn't understand what was wrong.
When Shinran met
Honen, Shinran saw a Buddha in him. But the Buddhahood that he saw in Honen was totally different from what he had anticipated. More than anything else, Shinran was moved because Honen was a humble student.
Honen identified
himself only as a student of Shan-tao (613-681), a Chinese Pure Land master. Honen said that the only important thing for him was to learn from his teacher. This way, Honen embodied the spirit of a Buddha by the name of Namu Amida
Butsu (Bowing Amida Buddha).
Namu (Bowing) is a part of the Buddha's name. The Buddha's name symbolizes the humblest
human spirit. Before Shinran met Honen, he had thought that a Buddha was a teacher, a respected & worshipped person. But now, having met Honen, he realized that a Buddha was actually a student, a respecting & worshipping person.
Further, before
Shinran met Honen, he had thought that a Buddha was a "good" & "wise" person. But now Shinran realized that such an understanding of Buddhahood was a shallow one. He realized that he had been seeing Buddhahood only objectively, from outside.
He hadn't known
the subjective reality of Buddhahood - what a Buddha would say about himself. Although people would see a Buddha from outside
& describe him by saying, "He is good & wise," a Buddha would describe himself by saying, "I'm evil & foolish."
Having met Honen,
who had deep insight into his own evilness & ignorance & said, "I'm evil & foolish," Shinran realized that the true essence of Buddhahood was humility
- deep insight into one's own evilness & foolishness.
Thus in the first stage,
i.e., before he met Honen, Shinran thought that a Buddha was a "good" & "wise" person & Shinran made efforts to become such a Buddha.
But in the second stage,
i.e., after he met Honen, Shinran realized that the essence of Buddhahood was humility -
studentship & insight into evilness & ignorance.
Thus, having been
moved by Honen's humble spirit, Shinran also became a humble
student. He recognized that he had ineradicable egoism at the basis of his being & that he had no goodness that he could
rely on as the basis of his liberation.
Thus he stopped
his practices designed to transform himself into a holy person. He realized that a wonderful Dharma tradition had already
been given to him & that the only thing necessary for him was to listen to it. This realization was his liberation.
Growing &
Maturing Let me further discuss the two stages, calling the first stage "the
growing stage" & the second stage "the maturing stage."
Human beings must
grow up first; we must learn & experience all kinds of things. We must strive to be good, better & best; we must pursue
infinite possibilities.
But when our growing
stops, we must enter the maturing stage. We must reflect upon ourselves, know our evilness, ignorance & ineradicable egoism & become humble.
The growing stage
is the stage of self-betterment & self-enhancement; it's a stage of self-affirmation. Whereas, the maturing stage is the stage of self-reflection & self-understanding; it's a stage of self-negation.
Shin Buddhist teachings
concern the maturing stage. Shin Buddhist terms such as "evil" & "foolish" are all connected with the discovery of our ineradicable egoism, with our becoming humble. Terms such as
"evil" & "foolish" should be understood only with in the context of our individual self-understanding.
They should be
used only within the grammatical context of the first person singular, as in "I'm evil, or "I'm ignorant." The evilness or ignorance of other people isn't an important issue in Shin Buddhism.
The essence of
Shin Buddhism is the discovery of the evilness, ignorance & ineradicable egoism in our beings. In the sphere of religion people usually believe that they deserve liberation or salvation & seek it.
But Shin Buddhism
teaches us that we, being helplessly egoistic & having no goodness as any basis for liberation, can't possibly deserve any liberation.
Having discovered
ineradicable egoism in his being, Shinran said, "As I am incapable of performing any religious practice, Hell is my only home." (Tannisho, Chap. 2).
He also identified
himself as an icchantika (one who is totally devoid of any good). However, the discovery
of his impossible reality was his liberation.
This experience
of liberation is a paradox that can be described only with the expression, "No liberation is liberation." When Shinran recognized that he had no "goodness" that he could rely on as the basis of his liberation, his religious self-reliance was totally shattered.
This total negation
of self-reliance, however, was actually his liberation. Now he became a totally humble person,
which was his liberation. Rev. Haya Akegarasu (1877-1954), a Shin teacher, described this paradoxical experience of liberation
in his article "The Last Person Remaining":
"Our liberation
doesn't exist in our becoming liberatable & liberated; it exists in our knowing that we're totally unliberatable."
In his article,
"Self-Despising & Self-Respecting," Rev. Manshi Kiyozawa (1863-1903), another Shin teacher, described the liberation of
the humble person by saying,
"The person who
has entered the gate of religion sees 'zero' value in himself. Far from slighting or respecting the self, he doesn't recognize any value in the self. Generally speaking, our anguish & feelings of grief - grieving exist because of our sense of self-importance. If we've already lost our sense of self-importance, we don't feel anguish
& feelings of grief - grieving. If we've already lost it, we don't mind whether others despise or honor us, or whether they slight or respect us. We can do all things calmly, leaving others to respect or despise us as they like."
Once a Dharma school
teacher asked me, "Can Dharma school children comprehend Shinran's deep self-awareness?" I answered, "No, I don't think children can fully comprehend Shinran's deep self-awareness, because it belongs to the maturing stage. Children are still in the growing stage."
Growing must come
first. We must let children grow up first. It's only after they finish growing up that they start to mature. When they enter
the maturing stage, they can understand what Shinran says about himself. It's exactly the same with academic education.
No matter how important graduate education may be, we can't skip grammar school & junior. high school. Thus Shinran called the growing stage
the "Necessary Gate (yo-mon)." It's a preparatory stage. It's only after we go thru the
growing stage that the maturing stage can begin.
Another Dharma
school teacher asked me, "Is it all right for children to have ambition? Should we Dharma school teachers encourage or discourage children's ambition?" I answered, "There's nothing wrong with children having ambition. It's important that they have ambition."
Let children have
as much ambition as possible. Let them pursue whatever goals or ideals they have. Let them strive to become great scholars, scientists, artists & sportsmen. If, after having pursued their
ambition & having become adults, children start to reflect upon themselves & see their limitations, then their maturing stage has begun.
While they're attempting
to realize their ambitions, their arrogance will grow, too. But if they start to recognize their own arrogance, then their maturing stage has begun. Let them grow up
first. Let them grow up as big as possible. We shouldn't make bonsai trees -miniature Shinran trees - out of children.
In a photo such
a bonsai tree may look like a huge Shinran tree. But it's not the real Shinran. Shinran was a gigantic tree. In his growing-up
stage, Shinran grew up to be a huge tree. If a ten-year old boy says, "I'm evil & ignorant," there's something wrong w/him.
If Dharma school
teachers are attempting to make children say that, they're creating monsters.
Then, what can
Dharma school teachers do for children? The only thing they can do is to prepare children for the maturing stage in their
future. The teachers must tell them that becoming good isn't good enough - that the ultimate goal in human life is to become humble.
They must tell
them that humility is the most important universal virtue & that only a humble person can have the greatest happiness & joy.
More than anything else,
Dharma school teachers themselves must learn to be humble; they must learn to gain insight
into the pettiness of their being & have deep respect for the Dharma. If Dharma school teachers simply attempt to teach ideas & concepts to children, they fail to be good teachers.
But if they can
manifest humility, deep respect for the Dharma, they are good teachers. Children will eventually forget most of the ideas & concepts that their teachers
have taught them, but they'll remember the humble attitude & respect that they've seen in their teachers.
An American Girl
& Paderewski There's a story about an American teenage girl who was sightseeing
in Germany. One day the American girl visited Beethoven's house.
When
she saw the piano that was used by Beethoven, she, being an accomplished pianist, couldn't resist her desire to play it. Thus she sat on a chair in front of the piano & played one of her favorite numbers.
Since
she played well, some tourists in the room clapped their hands. She was proud of herself.
After playing,
she moved from the chair & started to look at the things, such as lamps & books, which were used by Beethoven. Then
an elderly gentleman came into the same room. When he came to Beethoven's piano, he sat on the chair where the girl had played
music a little while before.
The elderly gentleman
sat there quietly. He looked as if he were meditating.
The girl was curiously watching him. Then a tourist approached her & whispered into her ear, "Do you know who that gentleman is? He is Paderewski,
a famous Polish pianist. He's probably the greatest pianist alive today."
She had heard much
about Paderewski, but she'd never seen him before. She was very excited to see such a famous pianist before her eyes. She thought that Paderewski would play music on the piano just as she had done a little while before.
She waited &
waited, but he didn't start playing. Minutes passed. But he didn't play.
The girl became
impatient. She finally approached Paderewski & said, "Mr. Paderewski, aren't you going to play?"
The master answered,
"No." She said, "Mr. Paderewski, it would be a great honor for us if you would let us listen to your music." Paderewski answered, "No, Miss, I am sorry. I won't play now. As a matter of fact, I can't play. I can't
play music on this piano. This is the piano of Beethoven, my teacher. Miss, I am nothing before this piano, before my teacher.
I'm totally worthless. I'm not worthy even to touch this piano."
When she listened to his words, she was deeply moved.
Let me comment on this
story. The two pianists in this story, an American girl & Paderewski, show us two different stages in human life,
the growing stage & the maturing stage. The girl represents the growing stage & Paderewski the maturing stage.
Both were excellent
pianists. But there was a considerable difference between them. The girl was a good pianist - a capable & skillful pianist; but Paderewski was a humble pianist, a great pianist.
The difference
was that Paderewski had deeper respect for Beethoven than the girl did. The girl certainly had some respect for Beethoven; but her respect couldn't be compared with Paderewski's.
He had tremendous
respect for the great composer. He knew his limitations, smallness & worthlessness before him. He was nothing before him. He was completely bowing down his head before him.
It's one thing
to be good. But it's quite another to be humble. Being good isn't good enough. We must know
the limitations, smallness & emptiness of our being. A good person must become a humble person. The girl must become a Paderewski.
Besides deep understanding of the pettiness of our being, besides humility, besides deep respect for the Dharma, what else do we need in our lives?
If we're truly
bowing our heads before the Dharma, that is itself our liberation. Shinran's view of liberation is fully expressed in his
words at the end of his Shoshinge, "Just entrust yourself to the words of these [seven]
great monks."
He says that if
we can truly respect & bow our heads before our teachers, that's all there is in Buddhism; nothing else is necessary. Our liberation is fully
realized there.
Many people think that Buddhism means a practice or efforts to perfect themselves. But the most important thing in Buddhism isn't practices or efforts to perfect ourselves; it's the realization that something perfect - a wonderful Dharma tradition - is already given to us. We need only to receive it, to listen to it.
Thus the most important thing in Buddhism isn't whatness - not what we can do or achieve. It's howness - how humbly
we're respecting the Dharma & how deeply we're bowing our heads before it. Our lives' focus must shift from whatness to howness, from
becoming a good person to becoming an evil person - a humble person.
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HERO'S CALL
There are times while I have been in the Marine Corps that I was
very humbled and paid my deepest respect. Unfortunately, that usually occurs when you’re at funerals, memorial services or like today a Bronze Star award ceremony.
We had two separate Bronze Star award presentation ceremonies today.
The first feeling honored five staff officers who completed their duties while in Iraq.
The second was for Staff sergeant
Goodwin from RCT 2, 3d Bn, 25th Marines (3/25). The kicker was that it was being presented posthumously. His wife and young son were there to receive it.
The award was read and that’s
when the feeling hit me of humbling and respect. All of the attending Marines snapped to attention as attention to orders was
said. The story began to unfold and paint a picture of a selfless man. A man who took care of his Marines and killed the enemy. Not only a man, but a Staff Sergeant of Marines.
As his wife and child sat and listened, his wife began to cry as we all could picture the Marine shielding a young Marines wounded body and returning fire. Not
leaving a wounded Marine behind he again formed an assault on the enemy to help recover the downed Marine. Attacking the enemy
straight on until he succumbed to his wounds.
The awarding General Officer told his wife “please accept this award on behalf of America,
you husband is a hero and he is a selfless man”. She responded with “that’s him”. Her son sat next to her looking at the medal with his mind
going a hundred miles an hour.
I wondered how he would look at that medal twenty years from now.
If he would know how much respect we had for his father and the actions he did in the middle of Iraq.
Yes, there are times while I
have been in the Marine Corps that I was very humbled and paid my deepest respect. This was defiantly one of them.
Semper Fidelis SSgt Goodwin, you are an American hero.
Very respectfully,
Capt B
How to Develop a Humble
Spirit Compiled by Lara Bode
Many people are
frightened by the concept of acquiring a humble spirit. Their thoughts are, “After all, aren’t humble people always putting themselves
down? Aren’t they the ones with terrible self-esteem? If I don’t work to build myself up, I won’t be important.”
Not true! Someone
who has a humble spirit recognizes the special privilege of her status as a servant of the Lord. Being humble doesn't mean putting yourself
down or having terrible self-esteem.
To put it simply,
having a humble spirit means viewing yourself the way God views you, having no good in and of yourself, but being worth the life of His Son and now made a child of God!
Scripture instructs
us to humble ourselves. James chapter 4 is an excellent passage which talks about a humble spirit; verse 10 says “Humble
yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.”
Believe me, the
Lord can certainly do a better job “lifting you up” than you could do on your own! Others don't appreciate your pride when you strive to build yourself up.
But if you're recognized as a humble person, God will lift you up. People will notice how the Lord blesses one who obeys Him. “God resists
the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” - James 4:6b.
What are some practical
ways to develop a humble spirit? God is faithful to give us adequate instruction in regard to how to obey His commands. By studying the Scriptures, you can find many ways
to develop a humble spirit; following are some of these ways.
1.) Submit to Authorities Placing yourself willingly under the authority
of your parents (or husband, for those of you who are married),
as well as your other authorities, isn't only a great way to humble yourself, but it's also
commanded by Scripture!
“Let
every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God.” - Romans 13:1.
Have you noticed
how few teenagers willingly submit to their parents and how few wives willingly submit to their husbands? The attitude of most people who don't submit to authority is “I know better than you do” or “you have no right to be
over me”!
This is clearly
pride. Cheerfully submitting to your authorities, out of honor and obedience to the Lord, is an essential attribute if you wish to acquire a humble spirit.
2.) Admit Faults This is
also a command from the Bible! “Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another...”
- James 5:16.
Now obviously,
admitting your faults needs to be kept in perspective. It isn't pleasant to be around someone who is constantly putting herself down or talking about
all her faults!
But most of you
probably have the opposite problem — like me, you don’t want to admit your faults.
“Admitting
faults” is different from admitting that you have any faults. I think all of you would be very willing to admit that you haven't yet achieved perfection and thus you have faults! Very few people are not willing to admit this.
But admitting specific
faults - or not arguing when others point them out, is a great deal more difficult. You'd be amazed how much is accomplished toward forming a humble spirit when one admits and confesses to others that she struggles
with pride. This is hard to do, especially since the proud “self” doesn't want to do it!
But admitting that
you struggle with a prideful attitude is one of the first steps in getting rid of it. Admitting faults, however, isn't a “once and done” thing. Whenever
you have done wrong, you need to be willing to admit it.
3.) Ask for forgiveness This goes right along with admitting faults. Asking someone to forgive you means asking them to clear your record and to not hold hard feelings against you because of the wrong you’ve done to them.
It’s a good
idea to admit your fault to the one you’ve wronged and then ask for forgiveness right afterward. (Example: “I'm sorry I was impatient with you. Would you please forgive me?”)
Always be sure
to speak humbly when you ask for forgiveness! It's very important to avoid attitudes like “since you seem to think I was impatient, forgive me”; this is really a proud way of speaking and will only succeed in irritating the one you've offended.
Sometimes I become
offended when others wrong me, but if they admit that what they did was wrong and ask me to forgive them, I appreciate their humility and forgive them. (Of course, you need to forgives people even if they don't admit that they're wrong or ask you for forgiveness.)
4.) Welcome Critics “Whoever
loves instruction loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid.” - Proverbs 12:1.
It's no fun to
receive criticism! But welcoming critics and listening carefully to what they have to say is an excellent way to build a humble spirit.
As you listen to the criticism they offer, you should look for truth in what they're saying and take it to heart, rather than looking for inaccurate things that they might say and arguing with
it.
I've begun learning
this as we’ve received letters from readers of The King’s Daughter. Most of the letters that we receive
are very sweet, but a few are critical. We've received a couple of critical letters which we feel were absolutely “right-on”;
the writers showed a proper attitude, used gracious wording and were right in their disagreement; but some of the critical letters either make points with which
we don't agree, or use severe wording.
It's difficult
not to get upset over these letters! But Dad always challenges us to “look for the good” and find the part which is true and helpful if we utilize it.
The lesson here
is that even in harsh and unreasonable criticism, there is almost always a statement that is at least partially true and if
you can find it and learn from it, then the criticism was worthwhile and can be used for the benefit of your character.
5.) Bless
Those Who Curse You “But I say to you, love your enemies,
bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.”
- Matthew 5:44.
It's a proud and revengeful spirit which wants to return evil for evil. Even when you love your enemies, though, be sure to maintain a humble attitude and avoid doing good with the motive of showing off how holy you are.
By humbly doing good and praying for your enemies, you're both obeying this Scriptural command and imitating the
attitude of the Lord Jesus. When you bless non-Christian enemies in this way, it is an excellent testimony of Christ’s love.
Sometimes even
other Christians persecute and speak ill of you; and in return you are to bless and do good to them.
A right attitude on your part is likely to reconcile you with your enemies, and even if it doesn’t, you'll have been above reproach
in your attitudes and actions toward them.
6.) Kneel in Prayer “Oh come, let us worship and bow down; let us kneel before the Lord our Maker.”
- Psalm 95:6.
We aren't commanded
to get down on our knees each time we pray. However, I’ve found that kneeling in prayer somehow affects the attitude with which I pray.
Kneeling is a position
of humility and it's helpful (although not mandatory) to get down on your knees and remember the difference
in position between God in heaven and you as His servant here on earth.
7.) Deflect
Praise and Express Gratefulness Deflecting praise
is crediting others when you're praised. If a friend tells me that she likes my dress, I try to say something like, “Thank
you! My sister picked out the material.”
If someone compliments
me on my work with children, I might say, “Thanks! My mother is a great example for me.”
This keeps the
praise from being focused solely on myself and it credits those who have done behind-the-scenes
work to make the achievement possible.
This is a real
help in developing a humble spirit!
If you neglect to be grateful, you're acting as if you alone are responsible for the good in your life. My friend Shelly says that when she expresses gratefulness to God or others, it humbles her, because she's admitting that God and others are responsible for the good she’s accomplished or the goals she has reached.
8.) Serve Others “...through love serve one another.” - Galatians 5:13b. “...the
Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many.” - Matthew 20:28b.
Serving others,
especially in menial tasks, is an effective way to develop a humble spirit. Serving others
could mean volunteering to help with the dishes, rock the baby, clean the bathroom, or talk with a lonely elderly person.
It's essential
to serve with a joyful attitude. If your goal in serving is to humble yourself and glorify God (rather than to gain the appreciation of others), you'll experience a true joy in serving.
9.) Weep over Sin I think the key to an appropriate sorrow lies in seeing sin through God's eyes. If you view your sin as God views it, you'll understand what a serious thing it is to break the righteous law of our Holy God.
When I haven’t
felt particularly remorseful after having sinned against God, I have asked Him to “break my heart with the things that break His heart”.
I think of how sorrowful the Lord must be after He humbled Himself,
lived a sinless life on earth and willingly died to redeem me and make me his daughter and then I repeatedly transgress His
law and don’t even feel bad about it!
Seeing my sin through
God's eyes brings mourning and genuine repentance, followed by a deepened humility and heightened joy as I experience the boundless forgiveness of the Lord as He purifies my heart once again.
10.) Ask
Others to Point Out Blind Spots Those who are close to you can often see faults in you which you don't even realize you have. If you're truly striving to imitate Christ, you'll want
to know your “blind spots” so that you can work to improve in these areas.
It requires a humble spirit to ask another to point out your blind spots and to not “react” when
they do! Considering that a “blind spot” is exactly that, something you can’t see, you'll probably be surprised
at the faults others point out when you ask them.
There is a temptation
to argue and defend yourself, but you should instead thank them sincerely for their assistance and work to improve in the areas they've mentioned.
11.) Get Rid of “Status Symbols” Status
symbols are those things which you have for the purpose of impressing others. Those who desire to have a humble spirit need to understand that “one’s life does not consist in the abundance of the things he possesses.” (Luke 12:15b).
It's not wrong
to have nice things. But sometimes we can act in a “showing off” manner and buy specific things just to impress
others. Examine your heart and see if you have any “status symbols” that should be discarded in order to promote
a humble spirit.
12.) Give Sacrificially “There is one who makes himself
rich, yet has nothing; and one who makes himself poor, yet has great riches.” - Proverbs 13:7.
Sacrificial giving doesn't mean that you should give away all your money. You're to be a wise steward of that which the Lord has given you and it's wise to save for the future. But you should give your tithe money with a willing heart and if the Lord lays on your heart to donate additional funds to His work, do it cheerfully.
Giving sacrificially doesn't always involve money. You can give of your time and energy as well. The key is to not hoard resources, but to give generously.
Care is needed, though, because if sacrificial giving is done out of a proud heart, it'll not serve to develop a humble spirit. (The proud Pharisee
arrogantly praised himself for how he gave tithes; see Luke 18:11-14.)
13.)
Listen to Others Instead of Talking about Yourself “...let
every man be swift to hear, slow to speak...” - James 1:19.
Talking too much
about yourself reveals a “me-focus” and indicates to others that you're wrapped up in yourself and the things
you're doing. It's fine to talk, but you should focus on others and really listen to what they're saying.
Oftentimes instead
of listening to somebody talk, you may be thinking about what you'll say as soon as they're done talking! A humble spirit cares about others and wants to hear about them.
14.) Avoid Joking about Others Often telling jokes about others can be a way of putting them down. The
Bible says to “Honor one another above yourselves.” - Romans 12:10b.
Joking about others
isn't consistent with the attitude of one who has a humble spirit.
Overall, these
methods for developing a humble spirit center on one thing: rejoicing in the lifting up and
serving of others. A humble spirit is “others-centered” rather than “me-focused”.
Someone with a
humble spirit desires to fully submit to God and to honor others above herself. In writing this article, I became even more aware that I don't put all these ideas into practice and I'm still in the process of developing a humble
spirit!
My prayer is that
you'll be encouraged and motivated to begin taking practical steps toward acquiring a humble spirit of your own. ©
To be humble : In Christian
terms, to be humble is to have an feeling honest, feelings of honesty perspective on yourself.
It comes from the same root
as 'humility', but also the same root as 'humiliation'.
Being humble
isn't about being feeling humiliated. It's about understanding that you're not more important or more valuable or more loved by God than anyone else, that God has given each of them something special.
Christian pride is about understanding that you're not less important or valuable or totally loved by God than anyone else, that the Spirit has given you something special, too.
Humble people have the right
frame of mind for putting to use the gifts that God has given them. If you think yourself 'better than', you aren't likely to use the gifts to serve others; if you think yourself 'better than', you harbor the desire or hope that you can get others to serve you.
If you follow Jesus, you follow
a God who dined with tax collectors and traitors, washed his followers' feet and died like a criminal with criminals. There's
no 'better than' in that. This is the heart of being humble : serving a God who is greater than us.
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Humility
Humility, in word & concept,
is a paradox. It means the quality or condition of being humble, which means meek, modest,
deferential or lowly. In contrast, the attribute of humility is highly praised. Humble people are advanced people.
Some folks even confuse humility with humiliation, being put-down, disgraced, degraded or shamed. There's absolutely no disgrace or shame in being humble. No, not a whit.
The root of humble is [Middle English from Old French from Latin humilis low, lowly from humus ground; See
dhghem- in Indo-European Roots.]
Some other relatives are Greek
khamai, on the ground; Latin h ¿m³nus, human, kind, humane; Old Russian zem ¹,
land, earth; & ZAMINDAR , from Persian zam ºn, earth, land.
It sure gets around a lot
for such an humble word.
In contrast to its earth orientation
are some pretty lofty notions:
A very well respected source told us, "Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth."
"Take my yoke upon you &
learn of me; for I am meek & lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls."
"But the fruit of the Spirit
is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, meekness, self-control; against such there is no law."
"Put on therefore, as God's
elect, holy & beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, longsuffering; forbearing one another & forgiving each other, if any man have a complaint against any; even as the Lord forgave you, so also do ye: & above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfectness"………
And, the late Mother Teresa
knew that, "If you're humble, nothing can touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because
you know who you are."
I've resolved this apparent
down-up paradox by coming to understand that low-high isn't the real dimension of humility. The essence of humility is in the false-true dimension.
Instead of "earth" I think of being "down-to-earth". This means being without pretense, being my true, authentic, genuine feelings, feeling genuine self.
Instead of cowering or groveling,
I picture the humble person as standing erect & naked. The
humble one isn't naked in a sexual sense, but in the context of being ones real self, withholding nothing from themselves, from God & from fellow humans who need to see the total truth.
The humble
person has not the least taint of phoniness, but stands straight in the naked truth, in honesty.
So, I think of the humble one as candid, as real, as feeling honest, feelings of honesty, as true to their natural being. If there are blemishes they show, but without any effort to hide them. If there are honors & beauties, they show also, but with no pride, no ostentatious display.
Or, it might be put another
way - Humility isn't thinking less of yourself. It's thinking of yourself less.
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