


Integrity
WHAT is integrity? My little dictionary says it means wholeness or the unreduced & unbroken completeness or totality.
We're supposed to be one complete piece, not divided or deficient, even though we're
made of parts. Many & endless parts, in fact.
We shouldn't be interested only in the physical well-being, but also in the mental. Not only the material aspect,
but also the spiritual. Not only the personal side, but also the social. Not only in our private moments, but also in our
moments with others.
We're supposed to uphold what's truly good for all & for
each one in all aspects & situations, always & everywhere. Whether we're alone or with others, with men or with women, with the old or with the young.
That's what
a person of integrity is. There's a certain consistency & unity in his being & in his doings. In his thoughts & in his words & actions. Whether in big things or in small, in the inside as well as in the outside, the concrete
ones or in the abstract.
He certainly knows how to distinguish things & conditions
& can vary his behavior according to the situation. He knows how to be discrete & prudent. These qualities are never
enemies of integrity.
But there's an undeniable
consistency in all these, springing from a clear knowledge of what he ultimately & constantly is.
Alas,
he also knows integrity can't only be the fruit of human effort. A much higher form of power & strength is needed to effect it.
He knows he isn't & can't be confined to the human & natural
dimension of life. He's aware of the supernatural reality to which he is also subject & strives to live also by its laws.
In other words, he knows how to live both in his temporal & eternal dimensions, without exaggerating one
at the expense of the other. This is the irreducible wholeness expected of all of us.
But I get the impression many people don't bother anymore about developing
& maintaining integrity.
The problems &
cares in life seem to dissolve any interest that people should have about this duty. They're contented with just getting by, doing what comes spontaneously, or what simply is practical & helpful at the moment.
There isn't much interest about what man should be. Everything is
experimental or a matter of opinion & consensus. There's no clear idea about what he truly is.
There's no attempt
at getting a definition that can be applied to all men at all times, irrespective of cultures & climbs thru ages &
places. There's no interest to understand man more deeply.
Many don't go beyond how they feel, how they think, what they observe around to get an idea of what man should be. The result is that human understanding
about man gets deficient, if not distorted or even openly wrong.
This is lamentable,
of course, a genuine crisis. We may not like to admit it, but its manifestations are all around us.
Start
with the more conspicuous public figures, our politicians, whose lack of integrity is written
large for all, even the most simple-minded, to see. Recent developments in local politics show politicians entangled with
partisanship if not pure self-interest & blind to the bigger requirements of the common good.
Consider the pervading mentality that accepts contraception as a good means to effect some population balance. People don't yet see the inherent evil of contraception. They just get contented at the thought that contraception isn't as bad as abortion.
Of course, all around us everyday
are constant examples of inconsistencies between words & deeds, desires & performance, what is public & what is private, external & internal.
We have to develop a sense of integrity. And it has to start with the return
to God, for without him, we would not have the source, the power & the reason to achieve this elusive ideal of human integrity. No God, no integrity. Just full
of show & promise, but no substance, no loyalty, no reliability.



"Personal Integrity - The Key Ingredient in Any Career"
"Rather fall with honor than succeed by fraud."
Sophocles
To be truly successful, you must have great personal integrity. Although you may know people who seem to profit
from personal treachery or shady dealings, their success is unlikely to last. Make no mistake about it: integrity is critical to maximum career
advancement.
I'm talking about being trustworthy, ethical, honest & dependable to the core & most importantly, being consistently so. Others glimpse your personal integrity thru
your behavior, reputation, life-style, scruples, morals, ethics & personal & social maturity.
You may think you have little control over your integrity - that your character is hereditary, like eye color or intelligence.
You may believe that integrity is a function of your environment - that you'll be no better or worse than
the people who raised you & the friends with whom you grew up.
Indeed, heredity, environment
& culture all influence your character. Nonetheless, your attitudes & behavior are ultimately yours to control . They're your responsibility & others will judge you accordingly.
Here are some thoughts & actions that will help cultivate your integrity.

Learn to like yourself!
"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."
Oscar Wilde
Look in the mirror each day
& say something positive about yourself. Praise & reward yourself for jobs well done. Compliment yourself for good ideas.
If this feels funny, it shows you need to practice self-praise more regularly. We all need daily, positive "strokes." All too often, we may be the only available source! At the same time, don't kid yourself. Praise yourself for
those strengths you have; resolve to attain the strengths you have yet to develop.
Don't put yourself down or
speak negatively about yourself. It's self-demeaning & contagious! When you make mistakes, remind yourself you're still evolving & that every mistake you choose to learn
from moves you closer toward personal success.
When you build self-esteem, you generate self-confidence which is key to optimum performance. 3 excellent books in this area are The Psychology of High Self-Esteem by Nathaniel
Branden, I'm OK You're OK by Thomas Harris & Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.
A friend of mine once learned
the importance of self-esteem the hard way. He came to me as a business development manager earning $85,000 annually, some 15% more than average for his
field.
I presented him with the exact
opportunity he needed to achieve his long-term career goal of becoming a Division Manager. Although his credentials were impeccable, he became intimidated because his peers viewed him as too inexperienced. He started reminding himself of all his shortcomings as he & others
saw them, steadily losing confidence all the while.
In the big interview, he choked
when asked about his shortcomings & why they should hire him over an incumbent VP of operations. With self-esteem on his side, he could have answered the question with confidence & won the job.

Bridges
are not for burning
Your career depends on constructive,
supportive relationships. We all run across people we can't tolerate, but being vindictive or hostile can cripple your career. Don't allow another's envy or attacks to rattle you.
Instead, forgive & forget. Move ahead only with a clear conscience. You never know who may reappear (to your dismay)
somewhere down the road.
I knew a vice president of
finance who had gone far in 6 years after college graduation. His technical abilities were outstanding; his people skills
were average.
My friend was closing in on
an out-of-town job opportunity which would have made him the youngest senior vice-president in a major utility company. After
the final, promising interview, the firm checked additional references.
Apparently, an office clerk
he once alienated left the company & became secretary to a senior executive who was a good friend of the potential employer. When the clerk
described her run-in with the candidate; he was removed from consideration. Had my friend cleared up that old relationship,
I think he would have had the job.

Go the extra mile
"The idle are a peculiar kind of dead who cannot
be buried." Chinese proverb
For maximum career advancement,
do more than you're required to do & deliver more than you promise. If you do only what you're paid to do, you're entitled
to nothing extra. So if your boss needs you to do an extra hour of work, give 2 hours. If your client needs a longer warranty, give him that & more.
If your sales quota is $20,000
per month, sell $25,000. Giving more is the quickest way to get more.
I have a client with whom
our firm has done business for 5 years. Over that time, several occasions arose in which our client needed us to consult with them.
We normally charge fees for
such consultations, but waived them to affirm our loyalty & commitment to their long-term interests. On occasion, we even referred candidates for appropriate job opportunities at no charge, again
for the same reason.
Do we calculate the cost to
us? Does it always pay off?
No. But when we hold the client's
best interest in mind, we generally win in the long run.

"If you aren't fired with enthusiasm, you will be fired with enthusiasm." - Vince Lombardi
Enthusiasm is critical to success in everything you do, not only for yourself, but for those around you. Enthusiasm draws others to you. Positive energy is always contagious. We all respect those with passion, passion to live, passion to love. By bringing enthusiasm to the workplace, you spread sunshine.
People with enthusiasm are persuasive & communicate self-confidence. People are always more persuaded by the depth of our beliefs & emotions than by any logic or knowledge we advance. Persuasion isn't converting people to your way of thinking, it's converting them to your feelings & beliefs.
Enthusiasm sends a clear message to others that you like who you are, who they are & what you're doing. Monitor your enthusiasm throughout your work day & see how effective you are in getting support from your peers, bosses
& subordinates.

Your appearances does
make a difference
Management may not know much
about your work, but they see your appearance. Right or wrong, people judge you in part by how you look.
Do a personal evaluation on your
appearance. Chances are, you can improve your appearance substantially by simply paying closer attention to the details.
Try to look your best whenever
you leave your home. Choosing higher-quality clothing, keeping your hair cut, being clean-shaven, shining you shoes &
wearing a smile every time you encounter others will make a big difference in your overall presence.
For work, I recommend you
mimic the dress code of your senior management. If anything, dress a bit more conservatively than the top brass at your company.
A good compendium of image
books &consultants is Professional Image Publications by Jacqueline Thomas, Staten Island, NY.
Executive etiquette is more than manners
"A good conversationalist is not one who remembers
what was said, but says what someone wants to remember."
J.M. Brown
Personal
integrity includes knowing & practicing proper etiquette. There are proper behaviors
for every business situation & it's incumbent upon you to learn & practice it. Letitia Baldridge's book, Complete
Guide to Executive Manners, Rawson Associates, NYC, 1985, will help you develop poise & grace.
I have personally seen professionals
lose career opportunities because they had poor table manners. By happy contrast, I've also seen a candidate of mine demonstrated such a command of etiquette that he won an outstanding position.
This candidate & I were
invited to a private function hosted by the prospective employer. Many respected individuals were in attendance. He had dressed
properly for the occasion, understood the art of business entertaining, was effective & courteous
in his conversation, showed grace & poise in dining, remembered people's names - in short, did everything right.
What won him the job was an
act of perception that went beyond mere good manners. As the meal progressed, an older gentleman sitting in the corner went
almost unnoticed until my candidate took the time to draw him out. As it turns out, this retiree had been highly successful decades before & relished the opportunity to talk about it with such an interested dinner partner.
As toasts were shared, my
candidate toasted the accomplishments & stature of his new friend. This won over the retiree's proud daughter, who also happened to be the wife of the host. Her endorsement helped win my candidate the job.
Develop
a personal code of ethics
"If you are not big enough to lose, you are not
big enough to win." - Walter Reuther
Establish your own code of
ethics & be willing to hold your ground regardless of temptation or cost. Let others know what standards you live by &
don't disappoint them or yourself.
The most respected & admired people are always the "good guys" who win ethically. Short-term gain can't justify the risk of losing our reputation & the victory in having won by fraud.
In my experience, ethical
missteps may be the most common cause for career stagnation. Once your integrity is open
to question, in even a single incident, there is little hope for forgiveness in a competitive, unforgiving marketplace.
Our firm & its counterparts
encounter numerous candidates - otherwise well-qualified - who can't be placed due to breaches of conduct. Theft of time &
assets, unprofessional outbursts, overindulgence of alcohol at business & social functions, lies of omission & other
such indiscretions are all unacceptable.
In a book like this, I can't
give you the moral strength required to always make the right choices. I can, however, suggest an easy yardstick you can use..
Before you act, before you yield to temptation, imagine yourself in the final interview for your dream job.
Would what you're about to
do or say improve your chances of advancement?



Is your word bond?
"The price of greatness is responsibility."
Winston Churchill
People who do what they say
they'll do - the people you know you can count on - are the most highly valued employees wherever
they work. Emulate them.
It's in your day-to-day interest
to always come thru. This gives you the grounds to expect the same of others & after all, your commitments often depend on your co-workers' efforts.
Doing what you promise only
part of the time isn't good enough. It can cost you your credibility. So be conservative w/your promises. I once presented
an exceptional job opportunity to an architect. She was happily employed & not looking, but after lengthy discussions she decided that the new opportunity was indeed for her.
Her interviews resulted in
an offer. She accepted, but upon turning in her resignation, she received a counteroffer which she also accepted despite our vigorous counseling that counteroffers are recipes for disaster.
Within 6 months, her old firm
had replaced her as overpriced & disloyal. The firm that courted her 6 months before shunned her as untrustworthy. She
had accepted their offer once & gone back on her word. Don't you make such mistakes.
"80% of life is showing up."
Woody Allen
People like to be treated
with respect & in business, punctuality is more than good manners. It's a clear way to demonstrate good faith. By meeting your time commitments, you build belief that your other promises & contracts are trustworthy.
Try not to make time commitments you can't keep. If you'll be late, call beforehand to re-schedule. I've seen good jobs lost because the candidate ignored this simple courtesy.

Confidential indiscretion
"There is no right way to do something wrong."
No chapter on integrity would be complete w/out addressing the subject of "confidential indiscretion." If there's one thing
that can destroy a promotion, or even a career, it's earning a reputation for being indiscreet. It can take only one breach
of confidence to lose the trust of a valued associate or employer.
Breaches of confidence, whether it be company trade secrets, client privileges, gossip, or simple jest - however innocent-seeming - can leave you marked for the duration of your career. These violations aren't easily forgiven.
Interviewers will often look
for bad-mouthing & sharing of company secrets during interviews. Many interviewers consider inability to keep confidential
information secret the worst breach of integrity - worse than lying or stealing.
Evaluate yourself to see if
you share secrets or gossip to gain attention. If you feel that improvement is needed, work to develop the necessary self-confidence & maturity to resist the temptations of tale- bearing.
Quality
first for the 1990's
"The highest reward for a person's toil is not
what they get for it, but what they become by it."
John Ruskin
American business seems to
have sacrificed quality in pursuit of short-term profits. The quick fix, the fast buck, the quest for instant gratification has created many problems we now have to face as a nation & a part of the world economy. We have been providing less
for more, while our competitors focus on providing more for less.
I'm convinced this decade
will show a recommitment to quality in our values, education, service & products. Play a leading role in this trend.

"Winning isn't everything, but wanting to win is."
Vince Lombardi
Your attitude is your choice. Anxiety, fear, worry, guilt, motivation, enthusiasm & happiness are all reactions we permit ourselves to experience. You may feel you have been dealt some bad cards
in life, but it's up to you not to dwell on them. Hold quick "funerals" for your disappointments. Forget them & move on.
Our attitude isn't determined by circumstances, but by how we respond to circumstances. Don't be a victim of your past. You can change your attitude, by changing the way you react to the events around you. Even stress is only a product of how you perceive, define & react to the world.
Our greatest power is the power to choose! We can decide where we are, what we do & what we think. No one can take the power to choose away from us. It's ours alone. We can do what we want to do. We can be who we want to be.
Respect other people's opinions, but don't allow others to define who you are. If you base your self-image on others' approval, break the pattern. Rejection is a part of life. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. One of the best guides I've read on attitude improvement is the classic The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale.
Motivation is fundamental to achievement in any field. As I have noted, it's far easier to generate motivation when your job interests you, calls on your strengths & presents achievable challenges. But great achievers bring motivation to almost everything they do. They believe they can succeed. You, too, are capable of great achievement, but you must begin by choosing to succeed.
"Personal Integrity - The
Key Ingredient in Any Career" is the seventh in a series of eight articles published by Hornberger Management Company.



Honesty & Integrity
In 1982, two top-ranked tennis pros were pitted against each other in the semi-finals at a Tennis Tournament
in New York City’s Madison Square Garden.
They
were Vitas Gerulaitis & Eliot Teltscher. After battling thru the first 2 sets, they were tied, even-Steven. In the 8th
game of the 3rd set, Gerulaitis slashed his way to ‘match-point’. After an intense rally of back &
forth shots, Gerulaitis hit a ball that struck the top of the net & dribbled over for what seemed to be a ‘sure match winner’!
But, nobody figured
on Teltscher’s sudden adrenaline rush. He came tearing up to the net, dived at the ball & miraculously lofted it
over Gerulaitis’ head. Taken by surprise & stunned, Gerulaitis moved back & took a swipe at the ball. But, he
moved too late & his shot went wide.
The crowd lost
it. They went nuts. Teltscher had survived ‘match point’ or so it seemed.
As the cheering
died, Teltscher indicated that in his lunge toward the final shot, he had touched the net – a violation.
The umpire hadn’t
seen him touch the net & there was a lot of money riding on the outcome of this game. But, that didn’t make any
difference to Teltscher. Neither one of those elements changed the rules of the game or the gentleman’s code that is
the basis of the rules.
Teltscher was his
own umpire. He made an impartial judgment. He was ruled by a code of ethics based on good, sound character. He shook the hand of his opponent, nodded to the crowd
& walked off the court – in defeat.
But, was it really
a defeat?
Hadn’t he
won out in a personal battle against private dishonesty? He could have gotten the money, the attention & rave reviews in the media, but only by sacrificing
his integrity.
He had to be a
loser in one way or another. He chose to be a winner in things that really matter. As he walked off the tennis court, he walked
away as ‘a winner in defeat’. The news media picked up on his noble choice & broadcast it around the nation. That man became an example &
pattern for honesty & integrity.
In one strategic moment,
he became an influence for good around the world.
Today, 17 years
later, Teltscher is still being an influence for good as I use his story to push home a point. These written words will be
passed on & preserved & read by others in the future.
But, I don’t
want to merely ‘push home a point’; I want to ‘drive it home’! So, I’m going to tell you another
story.
Only one year after
Teltscher’s momentous decision, Andrew Flosdorf was put in a similar situation at a National Spelling Bee. Heralded
as a winner, Andrew later approached the judges & told them they had misunderstood him.
He had actually
misspelled the word ‘echolalia’.
The 13 year-old
boy learned of his mistake when other contestants asked him how he spelled the word. After checking & finding out that
he had really misspelled it, he went to the judges himself & told them that he had substituted an "e" for the first "a".
As Andrew
tells it, "The judges said I had a lot of integrity"
& added, "I didn’t want to feel like a slime."

Andrew was interviewed
& received numerous requests to appear on network television. He couldn’t understand
why he was getting all that attention. "After all," he said, "the first rule of Scouting is honesty."
So, my first question
is this: "Can the invisible Judge of the universe examine the details of my life & say, "Son, you have a lot of integrity"?
The second question is:
"Do I want to feel like slime?
In 1969, I became the opposite of that which I’m now promoting. I told God ‘out
loud’ – Goodbye! I abandoned family, religion & all the moral restraints which those 2 elements represent.
I became an accomplished liar, living under other names & lying to everyone. Deception became part of my character. Every day that I lived, I deceived people. My birth place was a lie. My birth date was a lie. Every detail of my family history was a lie. My job history was
totally fabricated.
Night & day I lived & practiced lying &
‘being’ a lie.
In case I needed some political clout to cover my tail in the future, I campaigned for Winfield Dunn to be Governor of Tennessee. He became
the first Republican governor of Tennessee in 50 years & I was invited to the inaugural ball.
My lies bought
me honor & recognition. I was bonded by insurance companies, financed by banks & trusted by many individuals.
Under one name,
I broke the law & dropped clues for the police to follow. Even the clues were part of my deception. My lies sent them in the wrong direction & bought me the extra time I needed to get away.
What am I getting at?
The question isn't whether anyone will find out or not. It’s a matter of what’s right. If
I lie to you & you never find out, does that make it okay?

Is it all right
to rob a bank as long as you don’t get caught? Would it be okay for a burglar to vandalize your house as long as you
never found out who did it?
Oh no! That would never be all right! Well, what if it was something so small that it was really insignificant? Would that make a difference? If he just stole one of the hubcaps off your car, would that be okay?
Would you want
to hire a maid or gardener who would never take anything of great value from you. Would it be okay
if they made sure they only took small things?
Integrity never
looks at the size of the offense. It operates on principle alone. It never considers whether anyone else will ever find out or not. It does what is right,
because it’s right. In the eyes of integrity, wrong is never right.
While living in Tennessee under another name, an angel appeared to my secretary. The angel spoke to her about things
that happened in my life while I was in the 5th grade. There was no way she could be making this stuff up because I had never
trusted anyone with the truth of my true identity.

That & many other supernatural events led me into a Missionary
Baptist Church & a new conversion experience. As I turned away from many of the wrong things I was doing, I balked.
I couldn’t go all the way w/this ‘God stuff’, so I started bargaining w/God.
I told Him I would
be a Christian under my new name. But, God doesn’t bargain. He just lays His cards on the table & then gives every
player a chance to respond however they want to.
Jesus said, "I
Am The Truth", so how could anyone truly follow Him & keep living a lie? No Deal! He didn’t
want to be an accomplice w/me in my deceitful ways.
The end result
was that I came home to my original family. I went to Montana & turned myself in to the authorities. I went to the banks
& made arrangements to pay them back little by little. I wrote letters of apology to many whom I had offended in the past.
There were many
that I couldn’t apologize to or repay in any way, so I prayed for them night & day for a couple of years.
During that 2 years,
I had to re-learn the decent & honest ways of living. I had to walk in integrity for a change. When I lied to people, I had to go back & tell them I lied. I was in training & believe me, it wasn’t an easy school to stay in.
Every week there
were new reasons why I wanted to be a ‘drop out’. I wanted to go back to my old ways. It was hard.

On one occasion,
I got gas at the Minit-Mart next to Ramada Inn on Highway 90. When I walked out to my car, I counted the change & discovered
I had 5 dollars too much! I grinned at my good fortune & started to get in the car.
A Biblical scripture came
rushing into my mind, "Buy the truth & sell it not." But, I wasn’t going to let a silly religious scripture rob me of 5 bucks! I opened the door &
got in. A new thought hollered, "Judas sold the Truth for 30 pieces of silver & you’re going to do it for 5 bucks!"
Man! I couldn’t
take that. I went back & gave the man his 5 dollars & told him what he had done. Appreciation jumped out all over
his face. He knew he wouldn’t come up short at the end of the day. His boss wouldn’t have to take that amount
out of his pay.
Two weeks later,
I went in to buy gas at the Circle K store across the street from the Pizza Hut. I swear, the same thing happened & it
was the same amount – 5 dollars! I got a bit angry & said to myself, "I’m NOT GOING BACK THIS TIME!"
But, I couldn’t
drive away from that place w/money that wasn’t mine. I did go back.
I really was in training & practice makes perfect.
The next part of
this story is just too much! I walked into the H.E.B. supermarket to cash a check. An elderly man behind the counter took
the check, counted out 25 dollars & slid the money to me. I scooped it up & counted it as I walked away - 5, 10, 15,
20 & 25.
I was shocked!
Right there on the bottom of that stack of bills was my check. The man had accidentally slipped my check back to me!
I glanced at him
behind the cage & he was going about his business. He didn’t know what he had done & he didn’t know me
from Adam. He'd never be able to prove a thing. Instead of shopping, I headed for the nearest exit. I wasn’t going to
be a ‘Pollyanna Puritan’ .
I needed the money. This was too easy. I was going to keep it.
A fast pace &
big strides were getting me out of there in a hurry. But, I wasn’t fast enough. Something from w/in challenged me, "So, it’s just a matter of price? You wouldn’t crucify Truth for 5 dollars, but you would for $25 – is that it?"

I wanted to holler,
"Shut up! Shut up!" I slowed down, but kept heading for the door. Then, I slowed down some more & finally stopped. I looked
at the check – looked at the manager’s cage & shook my head. I didn’t want truth
& honesty any more than a kid wants measles.
It wasn’t
my nature. It wasn’t my habit. It seemed to be such an unnecessary waste.
Reluctantly, I
turned & headed for that little square cubicle at the end of the check-out lines. Looking up into that old man’s
wrinkled face, I told him what he'd done. Once again, profuse appreciation erupted from a grateful heart. I turned around & knew that I'd done the ‘right thing’.
Integrity is a
difficult thing to learn. Do I always get a perfect score on my test paper? Not hardly. I lied & cheated many times after
that – but most of the times I had to go back & make things right. Each new experience seemed to make the process
easier & easier.
Twenty-seven years
of practice has improved my record considerably.
I can’t condemn
anyone else for lying, stealing, or cheating. That’s not the purpose for this article. I’m merely trying to let
my words become a ‘good influence’ in your
life. I’m not expecting perfection from anyone, but I encourage you to reach for improvement in that area of your life.
It’s worth a try for me. Is it worth a try for you? I hope so.
The store owner
looked at his new employee & said, "Wisdom & integrity
are essential to the retail business. Integrity means that if you promise a customer something,
you have to keep that promise, even if it means we lose money."
The teenager looked
up at him & asked, "And what is Wisdom?"
The
boss answered, "That is: to not make any stupid promises!"

How to Think: Intellectual Integrity
This is the first
in a series of essays I intend to write on the nature of the creative process. While I recognize my own shortcomings as a thinker, I have ofttimes been stunned by the elementary mistakes made by some people. There are so many complex ways to screw up
good thinking, why do people have to blow it at the simplest levels?
I hope to present a practical, no-nonsense approach to the process of thinking. The toughest challenge in writing these essays, I reckon, will be avoiding homilies.
At first glance,
a discourse on clear thinking may seem out of place in a journal devoted to interactive entertainment design. Yet, I have witnessed the decision-making processes of a great many individuals in this
industry & I have come to realize that there's a lot of flawed thinking out there.
I'm not complaining
that people are sometimes wrong; we'll make mistakes at times. The problem I'm tackling is with the thought processes that go on. Poor thinking often leads to wrong conclusions. As designers, we simply can't afford to make those kinds of mistakes. Hence these essays.
The first &
most important factor in clear thinking is absolute integrity. Good thinking is tough, hard work, easily distorted by a wide variety of bad habits. Intellectual integrity
is the only defense against the many internal demons that would turn us away from the truth. It only takes one failure of integrity to corrupt one's thinking. This is why integrity; the absolute dedication to truth; is essential to clear thought.
Most people use
a narrow definition of integrity. The common & inadequate definition of integrity applies only to relationships with other people & then only to the truth
value of explicit declarations. Joe Typical figures that, so long as he never tells an outright
lie, then he has preserved his integrity. This is the "social" definition of integrity: if nobody can ever prove that I lack integrity, then I must have
it. Innocent until proven guilty.
This works fine
if your only concern is how you appear to other people. It permits a variety of deceitful behaviors, such as allowing another person to continue in a mistaken belief, or failing to tell someone something that they should know. Most people engage in such behaviors.
The reasoning used
to justify such behavior is destructive to clear thinking. It's impossible to engage in deceptive behavior without in some way believing the untruth in some corner of your mind. He who innocently shrugs his shoulders & mumbles, "Gee, isn't it sad that somebody would have told her that"
creates a tiny fantasy world in which he truly is innocent. To say it, you must first conceive it & to conceive it, you must erect the mental construction somewhere in your mind.

But this little
false-fantasy contradicts what you know to be true, so you must isolate the false-fantasy from the "real world" portion of
your mind. You must build a little wall to seal off the falsehood.
Every time you
tell or even think anything less than the absolute truth, you create a little wall in your mind & then you must
maintain that wall for as long as the consequences of the falsehood might come back to you.
After a while,
your mind is full of walls. How can you think clearly with such a cluttered mind?
Integrity isn't
for the benefit of others & it's for your own benefit. It smooths the path to the truth.
This is only the
most obvious example of the value of integrity. Mankind has invented
many more subtle crimes against Truth; addressing these crimes individually will be the stuff of
future essays.
There really is
such a thing as Truth with a capital "T" & getting closer to it takes dedication. That's the way of all things. If you want Money (with a capital "M") you have to be absolutely
dedicated to the pursuit of money & make no compromises in its pursuit (&
we have plenty of people like that in our industry.)
If you want Truth, then you have to be absolutely dedicated to its pursuit & integrity is the measure of how dedicated a person is to that pursuit. Integrity is to Truth as greed
is to Money.
Just as the seeker
of Money will make enemies & step on toes in pursuit of wealth, so too will the seeker of Truth
step on toes & make enemies. They killed Socrates. What do you want, Truth or Popularity?
One of the ways
in which a lack of integrity makes itself manifest is in the ready acceptance of beliefs which have desirable consequences, but for which there is little objective justification.
Belief in reincarnation provides a good example. We all fear the oblivion of death, but if we are to be reincarnated, then death is subverted.
Reincarnation eliminates
the psychological terrors of death & this in turn creates a powerful incentive to believe in reincarnation. To believe in reincarnation out of a fear of death belies a failure of intellectual integrity.
It isn't my place,
of course, to judge any other person; I can't know what animates another person's beliefs, so I'll not declare that any belief in reincarnation is necessarily proof of low intellectual integrity. I wouldn't even say
that it suggests as much. This is a question each of us must answer privately.
A more pertinent
example of such a failure comes from wishful thinking, something that permeates our industry. I've noticed a dogged refusal to accept unpleasant hypotheses from some of my colleagues. They want to think only optimistic thoughts. This surprises me; I'm just as comfortable with pessimistic thoughts as with optimistic ones.
Some of my colleagues
will reject a proposal because it's pessimistic. They deplore such thoughts as "gloom & doom" thinking. In another time & another place, they would've used
the term "defeatist". It's as if our industry elevates optimism to the status of dogma.
I can understand
part of this. The whole Silicon Valley / high technology / startup company gestalt is founded on a bold optimism that the future is made by brave entrepreneurs who refuse to accept failure. But it can also lead to a blindness that defies understanding. Atari went down in flames with
the band playing & all flags flying. So did Next & Osborne Computers & countless other examples.
Intellectual integrity demands that we give due consideration to the most unpleasant of hypotheses. We must
not balk at entertaining ideas that make us look bad, or suggest a dark future. Intellectual integrity
is a kind of internalized First Amendment, requiring us to hear out every idea, no matter how unpleasant it may be.
Another example
comes from misplaced reliance on intuition. I consider intuition to be one of the highest forms of human thinking, on a plane with wisdom a notch above judgement & two notches above logic. It's the ability to make decisions with very little in the way of direct evidence, but lots
of indirect evidence.
When exercised
properly (& I quickly acknowledge my own personal weakness here), intuition is powerful stuff. On the other hand, some people rely on intuition when logic would suffice. I've seen a few people stand by their intuitions even when presented with firm logical contradictory evidence. This too is a failure of intellectual integrity.
Integrity isn't like virginity; each of us carries it in greater or lesser degree. I know a few people who have
impressed me with the magnitude of their integrity. Most people, I suspect, have long since
compromised their integrity in pursuit of other objectives. This doesn't make them bad people.
It just makes them bad thinkers.
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Operating with the Truth
When you state the truth,
you succeed.
For example, if you exaggerate
a customer’s problem to increase your income, you run into problems. The customer can sense the lie, no matter how sincere you act. If you're caught, the penalties are painful.
If you understate the customer’s
problem or your fees, you're selling out what you know to be true. You prevent your customer from making the proper decisions.
You feel like a wimp.
You must look the customer in the
eye, without hesitation & deal with the truth. The customer can then act accordingly.
You did your job even if the person doesn’t like the truth.
When you have the courage to call the truth the truth you become a more powerful force. It's easy to hold a position on an feeling honest, feelings of honesty fact.
i.e., your software adds numbers
incorrectly. You call the software technician who looks it over. He says, "the problem is the user; the software is fine."
You pull out a calculator & prove the computer’s answer is wrong.
Because you know the truth,
you refuse to agree with the technician. No matter how smart the expert is, or how inexperienced the user is, you KNOW the
figures do not add up. You have personal integrity.
The same idea applies to your
family, spouse & friends. You agree or disagree based on what you know to be true, not on what they want you to believe.
Integrity
Integrity means you stick
to your personal code of conduct. You stick to what you decide is right & wrong.
When you live with integrity,
you succeed. You're open & feeling honest, feelings of honesty. Your life's uncomplicated & less stressful.
When you have good
integrity you have no reason to lie. You can look at yourself in the mirror. You have nothing to hide.
The Best Code of Conduct for You
So what is right & ethical
for you? How do you work out your own code of conduct?
"WHAT
IS TRUE FOR YOU" is what you have observed yourself
"And when you lose that you have lost everything."
"What is personal integrity?
"Personal integrity is knowing what
you know -
"What you know is what you know -
"And to have the courage to know & say what you have observed.
"And that's integrity.
"And there's no other integrity." - L. Ron Hubbard
No one needs to tell you what's right or wrong. You can see & decide for yourself.
i.e., Dave may decide it's
perfectly fine to drink wine with dinner. Steve may observe the same issue & decide it's wrong to drink wine. Both individuals
made their own decisions. Both are operating with integrity.
Maggie may decide spending
money on vacations is a crime while Lisa may decide skipping a vacation is a crime. Both make their own decisions about what
is right & wrong.
Like most people,
you've probably decided it's wrong to not support your family, abandon a friend, steal from your company, cheat on your marriage, shoplift, abuse drugs & so on.
You probably
believe it's good to work hard, be kind to your parents, have fun, pay your bills, tell the truth, return things you borrow & so on.
You know the
truth when you see it. You know you're using integrity
when you look in a mirror.
When you deceive your partner, you both lose a little. If you lie to your spouse, you lose a little. Whenever you abandon what you know to be true, you lose.
Nothing makes you more miserable than "selling out" & failing to stick to your integrity.
10 Benefits of Living with Integrity
1. When you stick to what you know is right or wrong, you don’t regret anything you've done.
2. People follow your example & act more honestly.
3. Your powers of observation are more accurate. You can see the truth about others more easily.
4. No need to keep your stories straight as your stories are facts. Less mental work is required.
5. You handle rejection & criticism more easily; i.e., you aren't bothered if someone says, "You charge too much!" As you have no doubt that your fees are fair, you know the other person has the problem.
6. You have fewer personality conflicts with others even when you're aggressive.
7. You fight crimes against you with more ferocity when you have nothing to hide.
8. When you make a mistake, it's easy to accept responsibility & move forward.
9. You earn the reputation as a person with integrity; i.e., employees brag about feeling honest, feelings of honesty bosses. "He might be more feeling honest, feelings of honesty about your work than you might want to hear, but he’s fair & doesn’t lie."
10. Your odds of being sued, fined or convicted of a crime go way down.
On Integrity
I want you to think about this as individuals... An
individual will say to me, "What can I do? What can I do? I'm just a little tiny guy."
And, I say, what you can do.....
I'm repeating something I said to you earlier..... that we are really in the final examination..... I did get, last night,
to you that we are a function in the universe. We're here for local universe information gathering, local problems solving
in support of the integrity of an eternally regenerative universe.
But integrity
is the essence. In an invisible world there's no visible aesthetics. In an invisible world the only aesthetic is integrity - in our great computer world we're going into.
So, I simply say, I am really
confronting you with the way..... I've lived thru all that..... because I was a comprehensivist, I've kept the records; that's
the only reason I'm able to say all these things to you I am up to. I'm feeling giving, giving feelings you a very faithful record of what's going on economically.
So, I simply say, what you
can do, personally, is commit yourself to what is the truth. That's all.
You have to remember that
we didn't invent..... design the universe & we're not running the universe.
I'm absolutely willing to
give credit to..... to the..... I like what the Indians say - "The Great Spirit." The word "God" tends to infer a human being's
form, so I say "Great Spirit" so you realize that I don't mean the anthropomorphic when I say "God."
But, if you operate with integrity, God wants to know right now whether human beings have the courage to go along with their own minds, or do you have to go along with the crowd? Do you have to go evenly with the game or are
you going to dare?
If we really dare to go with
our minds, we'll stay here. We'll go into an entirely new era in humanity.
It will not be a matter of
earning a living. You'll be doing what you see needs to be done because you'll feel you want to do it..... you'll want to qualify to be able to serve one another. There will
be nothing..... you will have no question at all about earning a living.
At any rate, personally
then,..... we've got two minutes to this session..... it comes back to each one of you, as the numbers multiply of individuals
who are really going to commit themselves to integrity..... whatever the truth may be.....
& really commit themselves to making all humanity a success.
You have to ask yourself a question:
"Are my reflexes so conditioned that I resent someone else enjoying themselves? Am I really willing to really love my humanity, my fellows?"
If you do that, we will win.
If you can do it, if it's spontaneously arousable in you, to operate with integrity &
really go along to love..... to love comprehensively. That's it.
Thank you very very much.
Bless your hearts.
-Richard Buckminster Fuller
Ten Principles of Academic Integrity
By Donald L. Mc Cabe and Gary Pavela
1. Affirm the importance of academic integrity. Institutions of higher education are dedicated to the pursuit of truth. Faculty members need to affirm that the pursuit of truth is grounded in certain core values, including diligence, civility & honesty.
2. Foster a love of learning. A commitment to academic integrity is reenforced by high academic standards. Most students will thrive
in an atmosphere where academic work is seen as challenging, relevant, useful & fair.
3. Treat
students as ends in themselves. Faculty members should treat their students as ends in themselves -deserving individual attention & consideration.
Students will generally reciprocate by respecting the best values of their teachers, including a commitment to academic integrity.
4. Promote an environment
of trust in the classroom. Most students are mature adults & value
an environment free of arbitrary rules & trivial assignments, where trust is earned & given.
5. Encourage student responsibility for academic integrity. With proper guidance, students can be given significant responsibility to help protect & promote the highest standards of academic integrity.
Students want to work in communities
where competition is fair, integrity is respected & cheating is punished. They understand that one of the greatest inducements to engaging in
academic dishonesty is the perception that academic dishonesty is rampant.
6. Clarify expectations for students. Faculty members have primary responsibility for designing & cultivating the educational environment & experience.
They must clarify their expectations in advance regarding honesty in academic work, including the nature & scope of student collaboration. Most students want such guidance & welcome
it in course syllabi, carefully reviewed by their teachers in class.
7. Develop fair & relevant forms of assessment. Students expect their academic work to be fairly & fully assessed. Faculty members should use - & continuously revise - forms of assessment that require active
& creative thought & promote learning opportunities for students.
8. Reduce opportunities
to engage in academic dishonesty. Prevention
is a critical line of defense against academic dishonesty. Students shouldn't be tempted or induced to engage in acts of academic dishonesty by ambiguous policies, undefined or unrealistic standards for collaboration, inadequate classroom management, or poor examination security.
9. Challenge academic dishonesty when it occurs. Students observe how faculty members behave & what
values they embrace. Faculty members who ignore or trivialize academic dishonesty send the message that the core values of academic
life & community life in general, aren't worth any significant effort
to enforce.
10. Help
define & support campus-wide academic integrity standards. Acts of academic dishonesty by individual students can occur across artificial divisions of departments & schools.
Although
faculty members should be the primacy role models for academic integrity, responsibility for defining, promoting & protecting academic integrity must be a community-wide concern - not only to identify repeat offenders & apply consistent due process procedures, but to affirm the shared values that make colleges & universities true communities.
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Fathering
w/Integrity
Wasn’t that a red light you just ran, Daddy?”
I
don’t know about you, but I cringe when I hear questions like that from my children. There are few things more
penetrating than truth from the lips of a child.
The eyes of children are constantly on their father.
The critical question is, How are you responding? Are you passing on a legacy of integrity,
or a legacy of lies, deceit & rationalizations?
Integrity comes from the root word “integra”
or “integer,” which means whole or complete. If we’re trying to live w/integrity,
then all aspects of our lives should be consistent. Integrity is often defined as “strict
adherence to a moral code of ethics.”
But it’s about so much more than following rules. The larger purpose, the end goal of integrity is solid relationships. Our actions have a direct influence on those we love.
When the founding fathers of the United States began drafting laws, it was to
help ensure that people respected each others’ God-given rights. It was all about living peacefully w/others.
Imagine that you live in a village w/out any rules. If your neighbor
likes your watch & he’s bigger than you, he simply comes over & takes it from you. If you complain too much,
he could come back & break your legs, knock you unconscious, or kill you.
With no rules & no conscience, he'll serve
his own interests w/no concern about your desires or rights. Doesn’t sound like a very fun place to live, does it? Neither is a home w/out rules.
For a more practical perspective, I think of it this way:
Integrity = Rules + Relationships.
A good father has clearly defined rules for behavior in the household, but balances the rules with healthy relationships built on:
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trust
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good
communication, etc.
Without strong relationships, the rules will bring
rebellion. On the other hand, relationships without rules lead to chaos.
Dads tend to be strong on one side of the equation
or the other: they're either rule-oriented or relationship-oriented. If you're rule-oriented, you'll likely demand compliance
for the sake of the rule, not for the sake of the relationship. Children can sense this & may break the rules to get back
at you or just to get your attention.
If you’re relationship-focused,
you may forget to hold your children accountable to the standards you have set in place. This approach will commonly foster selfishness in your
kids rather than concern for others.
Thankfully, spouses often provide balance. I’m more relationship-oriented. When I’m alone with the kids, the structure & rules usually disappear.
The house gets messy, medicines may be forgotten & chores are often left undone. When my wife
returns, it’s only a few moments until she has the house decluttered, chores in process & the normal rhythm of the
house restored. I’m working on being more balanced.
If you desire to be the best father possible, assess where you stand on this rules/relationships equation. Be willing to admit your shortcomings
& make adjustments.
If you're rule-oriented, take a Saturday with your kids where you’re consciously trying
to relax & not worry quite so much about the rules. Let things get a little messy; play hard; spend one-on-one time with each
child; express your love for them; learn their heart’s desires; cherish their youth.
If you’re more relational in your approach, stop &
recognize the importance of structure, rules & discipline. If you usually leave discipline up to your spouse - or worse, if there's no discipline
- sit down with her & talk thru an approach that works for both of you. Start being more of a disciplinarian; show your
kids that you love them enough to hold them accountable to the natural rules of respecting others.
A father with integrity will seek to
blend & balance standards & expectations w/laughter & love. Learning to live with rules & relationships is seldom easy, but it’s necessary if you want to become a complete,
consistent father. Your model of integrity will leave a legacy in your family for generations to come.
Rick Boxx is President of Integrity Management, Inc., a management consulting
& training company. To receive Rick’s free weekly “Integrity Moment” email, sign up at www.integritymoments.com.
Rick lives in Overland Park, Kansas w/his wife Kathy, his daughters Megan & Rebekah & his son Jeremy.
Rick Boxx
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